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As a doctor, do you think that celibacy is an unnatural "repression" that can result in psychological problems? |
Father García-Morato: Celibacy does not impoverish the personality. On the contrary, by being one of the paths to full realization of the person's vocation to love, it enriches him. I have seen this many times, thank God. However, I am aware that there are individuals who wonder if it is not emotionally and mentally healthier to have a spouse and a family rather than to live celibacy.
As I noted earlier, each person is complete in himself and is fulfilled in relation with others. Further, it is not possible for a married person to relate to all persons, or to make use of the innumerable opportunities to relate to one another. The promises made and responsibilities taken up by a married person necessarily limits their relational options with others. Whether a person is celibate or married, each person freely chooses those relationships they consider most appropriate for their personal fulfillment as well as the limits that they will observe for the good of those relationships.
The problem, to my mind, does not reside in living celibately. In life, what is terrible for the inner harmony and mental health of a man or woman does not lie in being celibate or married. The crux of the question lies in having made a free decision and remaining true to that decision as its manifestations affect one's whole existence. In whatever vocational state you find yourself in, problems arise by continuing to envy what one has not chosen, filling oneself with ever greater anxiety. This is what Jesus was talking about when he spoke of the unworthiness of the one who puts their hand to the plow and continues to look back. It is a sign of immaturity, which destroys and plays havoc with any existing commitment and even ends up by making one incapable of future commitments.
We must all learn to make decisions and to understand that, with every decision, we discard many options; and assume it with the view of one who starts on new paths full of surprises. That is why, faced with the fundamental questions of life, decisions must only be made if we are aware and are prepared to have them be decisions that, in fact, draw after them the whole personality.
If a decision is made, and the rest of the personality goes another way, inevitably a high-risk situation is created for mental health and personal harmony, both in celibacy as well as marriage.
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